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Playing Parents Against Each Other

Licensed clinical social worker Janelle Althen shares tips for parents.

The problem: Our child likes to play my husband and me against each other, hoping to get what she wants. It sometimes drives a wedge between us as a couple. How can we avoid this and parent as a united front

The expert: Janelle Althen, licensed clinical social worker at the PASS CenterĀ 

The solution: First, understand that this is a very common and normal situation. Kids are wired to keep themselves safe and get their needs met. In the process, they do sometimes work one parent against the other. However, left unchecked, this is very unhealthy for children because it gives them too much power and leaves them with a feeling of instability and insecurity.

When presented with this situation, keep the following in mind:

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